I started to love children when I started private tuition back in 2003. I remembered Augustine and Amelia who stays at Maria Avenue. They actually don’t like me when I first entered their house. Of course, no kids like tuition. To make them even dislike me more, I ‘visit’ them in the evening, after they reached home from school. After 2-3 lessons, they started to get close to me, (with my charm…hahaha) they started to tell me all their ‘little secrets’. They started telling me that their eldest sister seldom smile and Augustine would tell me where Amelia hides her things and Amelia would tell me what’s Augustine favourites. I can still remember their innocence and adorable look. It was actually an hour session each but from the fourth lesson, they want to do their tuition together and their mother asked for my decision on that, I agreed. They started to fight for attention when I’ve to sit in between them. Everytime they hugged me from my back, it gives me the warmness I never felt before. Everytime they asked for something from me, they always melt my heart as I looked into their eyes. They even asked me to stay over and they’re willing to give up their bed for me. Awww… Aren’t they sweet? During that time, Jiesen picks me up to send me home after my tuition sessions (the kids stay at private property area, quite quiet place, J being so nice to make sure I get home safely every night). They’ll ask me if I can ask Jiesen not to come or come in later to bring me home. How could I not love them?
I always remind myself that giving tuition is a big responsibly. If I can’t teach the kids well enough, I have to leave. Along the way, I gave tuition to Daniel, he’s too comfortable with me and I must have been too soft on him that he would drag the time away to do his assessment by telling me his stories. Well, kids have a lot of stories.
Reason? Their parents have no time to listen to their ‘stories’. It’s all about their school and classmates. What’s more for any primary school children to talk about? So now we know that a lot of teenagers problem, even at primary levels, children start to fight, involve in stealing etc.
Problem? No one listens to them. Adults think that the children are too talkative and too noisy as they talk so much so that they have to shut them up by telling them to go to sleep or go and study instead of talking so much. Shame on the parents! Wake yourself up first before start scolding your kids. I enjoy listening to the kids and feel that they’re many of them who are actually not happy at all.
There’s another tuition session with a P1 boy. I only teach him for a month and I call it quits. I really cannot take it. I remembered taking his session in mid-February and he’ll be having his first CA test in March. He is having problems with is,are,was,were. He’s so afraid when he read his books. On the third lessons, he’s already crying when I went up to the house. He didn’t want to talk. Only his grandmother was at home, and she was busy preparing lunch for him. I have to comfort him and hug him. Tears roll in my eyes as I watched a 7 year old boy crying. After about 10 minutes, he finally talks. He said that he’s too afraid. I asked him what’s he afraid of? CA test. He says his mother will scold and beat him if he doesn’t do well in the test.
Oh my! I believe he didn’t have a good foundation back in kindergarten. Or can I say that I couldn’t believe that the Primary 1 standard is too high. Just 3 months of entry in a new environment, they have to do a difficult test! I can see that he’s under a lot of pressure. I feel really sorry for him and I can’t handle these emotional moments at all. I thought that all kids should be very happy during their childhood.
It makes me want to study psychology again. I had wanted to do that, years back, but mummy says no. Well, whatever mummy says.
This boy’s parents were not at home when I went for the tuition session. Of course, they’re working.
Another problem? Parents are not with their kids during their crucial growing up stage. So what’s there to say about children are having so much problems now? Who to blame? It’s our responsibility to give the child the most he/she should get. At age 20-25 years old, we should already be prepared for marriage life, for family life. Whatever we are doing now, will affect our life in 10 years time. Believe it or not! If we don’t have a proper planning and proper financial, how would you support your family next time? Won’t you feel guilty that you’ve to leave your 1 year old kid at home and you’ve to go out and work? I’m not meaning that we don’t work after having kids, but have enough savings and planning to last you through the years of the kid’s crucial stage. There are still other alternatives like working from home or part-time. Don’t blame the school when your children came home with all sorts of problems. The problem lies in the parents.
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